Here’s a more realistic example for people trapped by this fetish. I’ve been with my girl since she was 21 and a virgin and I was 25. Met her whilst she was at uni after I had broken up with long term that ended up unfaithful near end (I was too so yeah). I had a mild IR porn interest at the time. When I dated current, she cracked jokes about big black cocks and would tell me black guys at her uni would ask her number at her waitress job and she sent me a dm of one. She didn’t realise it but it was fuelling my BBC kink. Anyway it’s 9 years in now and over the years whenever black men came up I hyper focused on what she said and fuelled the kink more. I’d watch porn where girl looks like her, sometimes bring up the guys that wanted to fuck her in uni. I opened up and talked it through and I realised the reason I found it hot was because during traumatic breakup from ex and betrayal, i brought that over to the new relationship and warped to coping with it by latching onto the black dudes she joked about and imagining her cheating on me with them and turning pain into sexual pleasure. She actually flat out told me she doesn’t find black men attractive and it was just her teasing me and joking around. But she knows now I did fantasise about her fucking BBC and is cool with it and understands why it grew as a fetish in me mentally, but she’s just not interested at all. In a way this is kind of a relief cause now I don’t find it even that hot to think about her fucking blacks anymore. It’s still kinda hot but her accepting my coomer flaws and now knowing about the fantasy I kept bottled up had taken the power away from it. I could try and drag it out of her and get her to larp but she’s categorically not into it so it would just be forced and only benefit me. So yeah, I came out the other side and I guess I will just confine any lingering urges to fapping solo. Once it was all out of my system it was such a relief we had the best two rounds of sex I think we have ever had from the pressure relief of her knowing I’m not a full cuck and me getting the BBC shit out of my system. She even joked about it saying “I mean they probably do have big dicks right? But I’m not interested”. Could have went worse and she could have thought I was a full cuck and ended up with disgust but the way she handled it was top tier foid instincts.