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Focusing on women as an end goal is one of the worst things you can do for yourself and is typically a sign of a lacking social life and a lack of self actualization. Work on things you like and set goals to improve yourself. Ask yourself if you like what you see when you look in the mirror and plan ways to fix what you don't like. Do the same thing to your environment. If you don't have friends, or your friends are negatives to your life, treat yourself like you expect friends to treat you and use that as a framework for how people treat you and how you treat people. When you see something that interests you, set some time aside to explore it. Make a rough outline of a schedule for yourself and stick to it. Think about how your respond and react to things, but don't ruminate on them. Look at what values, themes, and messages are in the media you experience and think about whether they align with who you want to be and what you like. Do the same thing with the things you do and the food you eat. If it helps, think of yourself in a narrative. If you were reading or watching something with a character who has everything you do, would you enjoy it? If not, how would you fix the character?
When there are opportunities to be social in relation to what you like, and you feel like you want to go to them, do so and establish a presence that you don't have to work hard to maintain in case you want to leave. Don't be so caught up in social circles that they replace why you went there in the first place. This is especially true for places that are about antisocial causes or have become so. Frequenting a place where everyone laments their social inability won't help you in any aspect of your life in the long term. There's a reason why "oldfag" has uniquely transformed into "oldtroon". Making membership of something into an integral part of your personality transforms it in a bad way. It's not only feminizing, it objectifies you and turns you into a commodity in a way that isn't inherent to your person. It's psychologically destructive. If all you do is lament on Discord, Xitter, and /r9k/ all day about how you're unlovable and will never have a girlfriend and make your interests into the interests of people who do the same, you may as well be a troon and be surrounded by troons.
If you've done everything so far, you'll eventually meet a girl or be introduced to one by a friend. However, as I wrote in the beginning of this, you shouldn't be looking for a girlfriend inherently, at least not until your life is satisfying. It's something that you obviously want and that many people want, but you should think about what needs in your life that other social relationships or self-improvement could not answer. Do you want a girl to tell you she loves you, or would it be satisfying if your mom did it? Do you want a girl to do what you enjoy with you, or would it be satisfying if you did it with friends or taught it to someone else? Do you want a girl to tell you about her day, or would it be satisfying if a coworker did it? Do you want a girl to teach you how to do something, or would it be satisfying if a mentor did it? Do you want to confide in a girl, or would it be satisfying if you did it with a close friend? Do you want a girl to challenge your beliefs and ideas, or would it be satisfying if a colleague or rival did it? Do you want a girl to make your environment better, or would it be satisfying if you moved?
Sex is something you can't have like this, but a focus on sex and reliance on masturbation is symptomatic of a lack of chemical stimulus and psychological support and is very easy to make into an addiction. Ask yourself why people become drug addicts then look at your relationship with sex and masturbation and think about how that relates to your pursuit of women. What do you want out of a girl that you can't get elsewhere, potentially in a better quality? What can a girl fix that other relationships can't? Is a girl who has failed sexually any better than one who sleeps with a million men if they're both as likely to pull you down? If you think girls are generally inferior to you, is there anything to gain by having one who does nothing unique for you and could even harm you? Is the girl of your dreams really one who sits on Discord all day, and if she is, are you in a position where you won't do the same to be with her? Is it worth having a girl now if it means limiting your opportunities outside of romantic relationships? Is the kind of relationship you would have with a girl the same kind you would criticize if you and she weren't in it?
I don't intend for this to be read as a MGTOW stance. What I've stated is meant for consideration rather than to be taken absolutely or answered in a binary way. You can get a girlfriend while improving yourself and self-actualizing, and I encourage that as long as she isn't destructive. It's better to think that you'll get one eventually if you live your life with the intention of improving yourself than it is to do so for a girl or anything except yourself.