Depends how much she is into it. My mommy tolerates it and plays along but she isn't totally into it. I'm also still shy about it. We have been together for four years and I still am afraid of her becoming disgusted and leaving. She says she is OK with it but I'm uneasy.

>>49641 Have you ever tried to switch and put her into pamps yourself?

>>49640 are we considering dommes an escorts as women as well or do you mean women you're in a relationship with?

>>49651 Either is fine.

In my humble experience, I can say that it feels very good. As mentioned above, it depends a lot on how into the relationship the partner is. In my case, in the past, I told three of my girlfriends about the AB/DL world, and to my surprise, they took it extremely well. They treated me like a baby with everything that entails. I even had sex with one of them in diapers on numerous occasions. But I must add that these people were very open-minded and quite maternal, so it was "relatively" easy for them to deal with all this. I don't recommend telling this to just any girlfriend/boyfriend; not everyone will take it well; on the contrary, they're more likely to reject you outright

Kind of confused about the significance of the sexes involved in this situation? Is it because women would not have as much knowledge of male genitalia?

>>49664 >But I must add that these people were very open-minded and quite maternal You also left out the fact they were all over 200lbs, lol

>>49675 Men are supposed to be tougher, so a diaper change is probably the most vulnerable situation a guy could possibly be in. Hence why it's an exercise in trust.

>>49693 Oh, that makes sense actually

>>49675 I'm in the same boat - I fail to see how having a guy change my diaper is different from a woman changing it. Besides a nurse at the hospital after surgery, I have only ever changed my own diapers. And in the hospital case, I was under anesthesia for surgery or after the surgery that it was changed (not sure if it was a nurse or nurses aide or the janitor tbh) On the other hand I have changed the diaper of another man before. I met a man in Pennsylvania about 20 to 25 years ago and he still lived at home with his parents. A few times we met we would drive back to my place or a hotel to play with diapers for a while. The first time I diapered him was an amazing experience for us both - but it got a lot more intimate and sexual than just a diaper change though. He got hard and I asked if it would help if I got him off - so I ended up going down on him. It was the first time he was diapered as an adult, the first time he had a blowjob from a guy, the first time I gave a blowjob. A lot of positive memories from those nights with him.

>>49675 I dont want to derail the whole thing into a "who has it worst depending on your genitals" but Kinky men are not highly desired usually while women can get away with being freaky and will even get more appreciated because of that

Yes. It is not as awesome as it seems. The reality is that I'm above average height for a dude, and my wife's a bit shorter and obviously smaller than me. This means she can't really maneuver me around and dominate me like in a fantasy. I have to lift my hips up for her to switch the diaper, she can't just grab me by the ankles and lift me up, etc. That's not to say it isn't fantastic and super special, it's just not how I imagined it. I can man-handle her, which she enjoys when it's her turn to be little. I tend to give her 2:1 little turns as it lets me keep a facade of manliness, lol. Any attempts to let her dominate me just feel silly cause I'm just so much bigger and more powerful than her, but she can clean me up, treat me gently, and make sure I have my binky before we go to sleep.

>>49640 I actually met a few women on fetlife who were keen on giving it a go with but I have a lot of fucked up intimacy issues and I was actually concerned I would become obsessed with any of these women just because, in my head, being my Mommy would be the ultimate proof of affection from a partner and not pay attention to other redflags... so all my experiences are only from escorts/dommes, To be honest, I think depending on the day, either a diaper change by a woman or a woman letting me suck on her breasts while I am diapered is truly the peak of my arousal/sensuality. Nothing EVER feels hotter than that. I am guessing for someone more into traditional vanilla sex would say "even bad sex is better than no sex" in that part I guess I agree, good diaper changes are insanely good And a bad diaper change because the CG is not used to changing diapers or engaging in the role is still better than fapping alone to a Mommy POV video, its still another persons hands taking care of it and taking charge of the situation and letting me be a passenger. While breastfeeding feels very gentle, soothing, quiet, and passive even if the CG adds a handjob or vibes me through the diaper it feels like there is "not a lot of it happening" is a little bit more simple and "unchanging", not a lot of steps or stages to it, it starts, the unbearable seconds as the shirt is pulled up or the gown is open, the bra is revealed, the breast slowly exposed and a poking nipple inviting, alluring, enticing for nurturing feeding. As the latching happens the world stops and only the rhythm of suckling remains and two meld into one... A diaper change can have many aspects of it, you can be shy about it, you can be bratty, you can be naughty, it feels like it invites more interaction between the two parts, a certain communication that does not necessarily require actual words, there can certainly be baby babble, gurgling, cooing or simply tiny cute baby sounds. I, for one, love to whimper and complain a little bit as I like pretend I dont know entirely whats going on, a little bit of helplessness or refusing to admit I need a diaper/diaper change. I dont like cruel or mean forced stuff but I definitely enjoy a domineering vibe coming from a CG. But letting someone else do the diapering, the powder, the lotion, the caressing, some edging here and there, some baby talk, a little bit of teasing and making you feel like a baby because you need diapers otherwise you will piss your pants. Then getting dressed in snappy pants or an onesie... oh man... best feeling in the world.

My ex would baby me early in our relationship. When she was into it, it was fun. She even did some messy diapers. For me it was awesome! She would do a "mommy" voice and I would be rock hard during changes. It was a little embarrassing, but I like being embarrassed so it was hot. Eventually she got tired of it and started thinking of me kind of a pussy, but before that 10/10.

>>49691 I recommend you don't project your insecurities onto me. Just because no one else has shared a similar fantasy with you doesn't allow you to dismiss other people's experiences. Take note. Then I'll remember why I never want to share personal experiences on this site. There are so many resentful, disturbed people out there, it's almost embarrassing. P.S. I have nothing against fat people, but I want to clarify that all my partners had and have nice figures (at least in my opinion).

>>49761 that is one of my greatest concerns when considering about sharing this with a partner once you they know, that deep down inside you like soft, babyish, silly things and enjoy thinking and acting like a baby they might just go "fuck this, I want a man, I dont feel loved or protected by a baby" and if you're not into any cuck-shit not only the relationship is over but also you need to worry about someone potentially being resentful and knowing your secret.

>>49764 pay no mind to the sad angry dude, chans are filled with them though, thats the norm thanks for sharing your story

>>49764 >Then I'll remember why I never want to share personal experiences on this site. Why are you talking like your posting here is favor to anyone and that withholding it is any kind of threat?

>>49765 I think this fetish gave me severe trust issues. Two times in the past have I tried to tell a close friend this, and the first time I quickly realized it was a terrible idea and aborted the discussion, and the second time I was both pushing myself to tell another friend and hard rejecting it at the same time, and the clashing ideas caused me to have a mental breakdown that nearly ended the friendship. Fuck me. I wish I wasn't like this.

>>49770 I am really glad that my best friend accepted it easily. Probably has to do with the fact that we were all ready on the same wavelengths in terms of values, even though are personalities differed a lot. Really, I am very glad that I had such a comfortable childhood in general. My parents were very loving, I had good friends who stuck with me, and I never really had any problems with myself over my fetish. Sorry to hear about how things went with you anon, and I can see why they did. Just sort of glad that that isn't the case with all ABDLs. Not trying to dunk on you anon, just legitimately happy that there are people out there who came out well-adjusted with this fetish.

>>49782 No it's fine, I just wish I could have that kind of trust someday too. I'm not sure how comfortable I am with the idea of trusting someone that much, but I still kind of want it. It might be nice.

>>49784 I can see why you would be apprehensive about it anon. At the very least, I hope that you are able to come to a decision on way or the other some day. However it turns out, good luck.

>>49770 >I think this fetish gave me severe trust issues. I feel that. I already had trust issues by the time I really go into this fetish, but I can tell you this. It defiantly made my trust issues worse. The first person I dated; I never told her any of my fetishes, hell I never told her a single thing about me that would show any vulnerability. She had a never ending cyclone of problems she was always crying about. I though I had to "be a man" for her. I was 18. She was turning 27. Now that I'm older than she was when we dated. I think about how fucking insane it would be for me to trauma dump my adult problems on a college freshmen like I was at the time. >>49784 My last partner found out about this fetish by mistake. When she found out she said "this is what you were so scared to tell me? It's just diapers, it's not a big deal." She then said she found it cute. I really wish I had just told her sooner. She would baby me sometimes. Little things like remind me to go "pee pee" before we go out, or check my pants for "accidents" even though I wasn't wearing a diaper. We broke up before I could introduce diapers into it, but she was onboard. It felt like if we had stayed together I was a few months away from getting changed by her. Such is life. We're still on good terms and she's still someone I feel like I can tell shit too if I needed too. Sadly I think anyone I date in the future I'll be sacred to tell them all over again. I lean more gay, so maybe a guy would be easier to open up with, assuming we're dating already. Do your trust issues apply outside of diapers too? I've noticed if I'm going to tell someone anything about myself that might make me feel vulnerable my first thought is: "Will they use this to hurt me later?" followed by "Does this make me look weak?" and I end with "Are they going to mock me for this?"

>>49794 >The first person I dated; I never told her any of my fetishes, hell I never told her a single thing about me that would show any vulnerability. She had a never ending cyclone of problems she was always crying about. I though I had to "be a man" for her. This is basically every relationship I've ever had with a woman (or most people for that matter) of endlessly giving without ever having a single need or want of mine taken care of. It sucks to think that never being taken care of really pushed me from just a DL due to some early exposure stuff to an AB. >I've noticed if I'm going to tell someone anything about myself that might make me feel vulnerable my first thought is: "Will they use this to hurt me later?" followed by "Does this make me look weak?" and I end with "Are they going to mock me for this?" same anon, i have image issues bad and have distinctly split personalities for specific parts of myself and cope with it like that. I have a version of myself I put on for show and one I keep to myself that's very vulnerable and scared.

>>49794 >"this is what you were so scared to tell me? It's just diapers, it's not a big deal." That's a nice sentiment, but I feel like I would probably be offended quite a bit if I was told that. Cause to me it IS a big deal, the biggest deal to me, it's the deepest secret I hold and I was scared for a long time growing up that if I told anyone else it would ruin my friendship with them cause they'd think of me as a sick freak, or spread rumors. Much less ask out a girl, cause I knew at some point in a relationship this would have to come up, and would probably end it, so I always stopped myself from trying to get close to avoid this hypothetical outcome. I didn't trust myself to trust other people, and thought "this is just how it has to be." >Do your trust issues apply outside of diapers too? Well, yeah. But it's mainly cause I learned due to being ABDL. I like to keep people at arm's length and feel really uncomfortable if anyone knows too much of my life. When my friends and I talk I like to let them ramble on and just listen, embarrassed to talk about anything I'm interested in, as if it was really something to be embarrassed about. I can easily wear a mask and just go about being 'normal', cause my pathological need to keep others away forced me to get good at hiding things. Other friends have revealed secrets to me and I'm happy to keep them, but I never tell them my own. Cause it would inevitably lead to revealing I'm ABDL. I wouldn't give up liking diapers for the world though, I've liked them for as long as I can remember and can't imagine a version of me that doesn't like them. They're intrinsically a part of me. And I think it sort of extended to affection as well. A lot of my friends have no trouble saying they love each other, and everyone's fine with it. But to me to say that means to expose an extremely vulnerable part of yourself that you can't hide, something I instinctively need to protect at all costs. And that bothered me for a really long time, why couldn't I tell my friends I love them? They're my friends, they deserve to know that. But I eventually realized it's because I learned to not trust others to protect my secret about diapers. If I couldn't trust them with something like that, then I couldn't sincerely say I loved them either. Love is trust, and trust is love.

>>49808 I'm not really sure what I can say that won't come off like armchair physiology, but I think diapers are more than just a fetish to you if you think they're that deeply a part of you. Don't think of this as advice. I'm just barking into the void. Nobody thinks about you was much as you will. Even your good friends, who do think about you, are not wondering what get's you off. This is a big deal to you, a big deal to all of us because we're all stuck in our own heads. If you look in the 24/7 threads people have asked, and I have too. "Are you worried about people seeing them?" More often than not the answer is "most people aren't looking at you, and if they saw, they really don't care." They'll think about it for a few minuets, if that, then go back to their own lives. I know that does fuck all for trust issues, but I can't help someone with something I can't fix myself. All I can do is tell you what helps me cope. Knowing most people are indifferent to my existence has helped me a lot.

>>49850 Yeah that's fine, just being able to type it out is nice. It's my life to figure out and get together, I'm not expecting anyone else to do it for me. I do appreciate the conversation, seeing other people's experiences helps to reflect on my own.

>>49850 >>49853 Yeah, I can't really blame anon in this situation. The situation here is really that "normal" people have a pretty big safety cushion in their lives that they never really get the chance to appreciate (e.g., you can't off handedly mention your girlfriend and no one is going to flip out). In general I support stoicism, as if you have a proper, internal self-image, you shouldn't let the thoughts of others affect you, but I can definitely see how there's basically a double standard in society when it comes to fetishists.

Hey, Not sure if this is the place to post but I just got dumped twice by women who were grossed out by my ABDL. It just sucks guys and it makes me feel like there is something wrong with me and that I should just hide this part of me forever. Any words of advice to help deal with this?

>>49880 All I can say is if it feels like a genuine part of you don't give it up, because you'll feel even worse if you're trying to reject part of yourself. It sounds to me like you and these girls were simply incompatible.

>>49769 I enjoyed it and you're an asshole. If you want to troll, stick to asshats not providing content, like you, you faggot.

>>49761 If this is real, I can't even imagine how amazing it must have been. I hope you didn't take those experiences for granted.

I had a friend in the abdl community who was a girl. Met her on Fet. We met up a couple times and the last time we met, she changed me out of a soaked goodnite into a Tykeables Unicorn on a bench in a park. It was the hottest thing ever and we held hands after and walked around. Ended with me humping the ground under a bridge and cumming for her. 12/10 would recommend.

>>50571 Sounds amazing honestly

>>49892 >I enjoyed it I'm sure you did :)

>>50572 It was tbh. She deleted her fet and I got locked out of my snap so I haven't seen her in a good while. She was honestly an amazing friend and I'm hoping I can figure out a way to reestablish contact. She was one of those people that made you feel like you weren't alone for having these desires because she was super into it too.

Wife always diapers me after sex, or changes me into a clean one if we did it with diapers on. And yeah, it's really nice.

I dated a nurse for a while and she changed me a lot. It was fun I suppose but I have more fun with other guys. My fantasies have always been about boys at a sleepover doing diaper things together so having a women change me is fun in the normal sex kind of way but doesn't scratch my ABDL itch like boys-being-boys does.

I wish I had a partner that that did. Even an abdl escort doing it would be awesome.

>>51691 You don't want an escort trust me. They are insanely expensive and because of how niche our fetish is they usually don't fully understand what makes us tick. So the experience drains your wallet while not being fulfilling.

>>51691 Dont listen to >>51798 the way things are today, if you ever hope to actually get to experience being taken cared of, just browser around for a dominatrix, and find one that you like enough to give it a chance and arrange a session. Granted you dont want to be doing this every week, not even every month, but once every 4-6 months is a nice experience-relief and you get to explore this side of you and your desires and fantasies. Get a burner phone before you contact any, and set up a throwaway email just in case, do not pay deposits previous to the session and take your time going through your possible candidates. Dont rush it. I have had WONDERFUL sessions with several dommes in different countries but none of them were an ABDL Mommy, most of them were in the Domme/Femdom scene willing to offer a nurturing-maternal treatment. Still way more realistic than trying to find a sane CG in the community, things have been going to shit for a while in the kink scene, its even better to try and look for a sex positive partner and introduce them to it.

>>51816 >>51821 You can also just find a friend who has the fetish. ABDL is honestly pretty common, all things considered.

>>51816 Only if I can find someone that isn't a scam is the main thing. Screw fakies. One time it was a undercover text sting (luckily I had a temp number).

>>49675 >>49700 Probably because they're straight.