>>6248
You are already overthinking it.
>swoop in for the attack if neither of you have any reason to talk to each other
Let conversation start naturally. Comment on something happening at the time, some shared experience etc. I usually mention something they're wearing because physical aspects seem shallow and they will assume you're hitting on them, they're also heard super often and are generally generic and bland. The intro should be unique and memorable. The two I've used are glasses and boots because neither are sexual but they show that you've paid attention to them.
Cold approaching is weird, it doesn't really work and the vast majority of women will feel uncomfortable even if you're gigachad. Women like some amount of familiarity and have to see someone a few times before they have their opinions on it sorted, at least that's my experience.
Also don't approach women with romantic intention. You should be friendly but not desperate. Women sense that shit. You should keep it light, fun and playful. Don't be nervous, and you 100% have to be indifferent to the outcome. I have had my best success when I absolutely do not give a shit about the outcome of the conversation and talk about what I want and keep it fun.
You will be friend zoned often, but having many female friends is the best way for other women to be attracted to you.
Also don't be a nice guy cuckboy.
>Most places girls are it feels like they do not want to get hit on, they seem busy
Yes, so don't hit on them. Talk to them.
>hobby
You should join because you want to, not to meet women.
Also yes, it is getting harder to meet women. I met a bunch at uni last year but nothing really happened. Outside of uni it seems pretty difficult, but the reality is you just have to put yourself out there. If you make an effort to talk to women it'll both get easier and you'll have more success from sheer numbers.
If you want to be a giga-autist, set an amount per week you have to talk to. One per day is very achievable.
Also, hygiene is the most important, followed by style. Personality matters, don't let redpillers tell you otherwise. Being confident, extroverted and funny will get you more pussy than being tall or jacked and autistic (at least in my experience, I can explain further if needed). The other stuff is harder to change but working out helps.
I am probably a 7 or an 8 and have had decent success despite autism. I know guys shorter and uglier than me who have way more girls because they are much more extroverted. I am somewhat comfortable talking with girls, and almost all my success came from being more open and socializing.
tl:dr Work on your personality, be confident and funny, dress well and keep clean (smell is especially important, don't overdo cologne but it should be reasonably noticeable, deodorant, fresh breath etc.) and be prepared to fail romantically but have many female friends.