>>5667 So, yeah, it was hot af. The problem is that your partner will never love diapers exactly as you do. I thought it would be the end of the obsession but she either didn't want to do certain things, or got embarrassed or I realized if I asked for feminizing stuff she'd see me as less of a man and I didn't want that because we ended up having a real relationship. You'll never have that 100% fantasy fulfillment you're seeking. It doesn't exist. Better to realize lust is lust and look for fulfillment in a real relationship on whatever terms. Sex is only a part of your relationship and diapers are a smaller part of that. I say all this while still hanging on 8ch, so, hypocrite though I may be, hope this helps.

She totally embraced the diapers wetting and everything. Unfortunately that was the best part of our relationship so it ended.

Wife wears for enuresis and now incontinence. It was total luck that I met her. She is not an ABDL, in fact, I don't think she knows what it is. I'm fine with that. >>5668 This, the whole point of a fetish is that it can never be fulfilled, it's often a bad idea to introduce a partner to this I think. Best to do ABDL things when alone.

>>8179 You're very lucky if your ABDL fetish is just a secondary concern rather than your main sexuality. Like OP, I really can't get turned on by anything even close to vanilla.

>>8189 I can hardly remember the last time I got off without the girl being diapered tbh.

>>8189 Not luck, a mixture of therapy and time. I am still into ABDL, for sure--probably will be till I die--but it's now a 'side dish', rather than the main meal. I can have 'normal' hetero sex and be a part of it, rather than feel disconnected from the girl and depersonalized. I also wear full-time on the weekend. And I have a cute wife who wears.

>>8200 How did the therapists change what turns you on?

Chances are a woman into the abdl fetish is going to be just as mentally deranged if not more so than your average anon. Hell r/abdl and tumblr was proof of this.

>>8948 as long as she's the right kind of deranged

>>8978 Most likely will be a mentally ill furry.

>>8948 Can you give more context into what you're referring to?

>>8948 I'd like a girl as deranged as the average /abdl/ user, tbh

i'd like a schizoid man ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

>>9298 Don't think you want answers anon.

>>9335 Yeah, but we like being alone.

I think women are just as into depraved stuff, but they have a way easier time keeping fantasies in check, its not that its only difficult to self-identify in spaces like this but there's just no reason to (unless money). I guarantee there's some reading this board now who are just in it for the porn like anyone who comments, it's just pointless to jump in. With almost every girl I've been with, I shared this bit of myself and the range was always between "they're cool with it and intrigued" to "they're into it". - You HAVE to be comfortable with yourself...if you can and also approach the relationship with genuine intentions, it will be positive pretty much every time. If your looking for a diaper hookup, it's probably not happening. I've gotten lucky, I used to post myself and got a few messages from women. If I can give one bit of advice: don't be over-eager, if they have a profile - read it, if you wouldn't want to hang out with them without diapers don't waste anyones time -One WAS more depraved than any man I've ever talked to, and yes it couldn't last because she had more issues than I wanted to deal with. But lets just say the human centipede made her really tingly -When I was younger there was an attractive older blond woman who wore but mainly wanted me SOAKED. We spent a weekend together and she wouldn't stop groping me in the night -One was a just a run of the mill DL. She's just super into messing in a diaper as much as it'l hold. We check in with each other often just talking normal stuff, but also tonight shes keeping me updated on how the fiber supplements is working through her Focus on yourselves. Have goals and interests that are your own, things like this will just fall into place. Sharing a snippit of proof but not posting anything else. Ask me anything though I'll get back eventually

>>9461 I agree, women are absolutely as depraved as men but like you say they keep it in check a lot more, in fact i think they repress it even to themselves. Plus you gotta understand that how men and women get turned on is different, men are more like 'immediate' where as women like it slower with lots of build up and foreplay

>>9461 tbh h o t

>>9467 Exactly, you get it You bring up a good point too. As you grow, it's a bit of a balancing act in learning how women are different without "othering" them, if that makes sense. I think a lot of dudes have the realization that women are different, get frustrated at the differences and fall into a pitfall of anger and hatred. Understanding people takes WORK and why do that when you can live in the fantasy which is nice and neat and always goes your way. It does pays off though, it's fun to do things with other people >>9287 Also I'm posting one more chat pic in response to this comment specifically. Lol, my dudes I'm telling you they're out there

I've been with a girl I met from fetlife who was pretty depraved and fun. But crazy. I found out like 5 months into talking to her she was cheating on her boyfriend with me. So pretty fucked up individual. BUT this girl was a legit baby who loved to have her panties taken away. We flirted for a couple months on fetlife and snap, basically me teasing her for needing diapers and being a baby. Eventually we decided to meet in Miami for a couple days. Quick story.. On our second day hanging out in person, she drank a couple 16 oz bud lights (like 3 maybe which is a ton for a girl) and went to target with me wearing goodnights and a jean skirt. She seemed to hold it well while we picked stuff out there, and she even held it while we checked out. But I guess on the way back she started panicking and second guessed peeing herself in the rental car. She started having a full blown panic attack and crying because she had to pee. I pulled over to a mcdonalds parking lot and she went inside. Eventually she comes back and seems better so I think she must've gotten to the toilet no problem. I think nothing of it until we get back to the hotel we're staying out and this girl has a big wet stain on the back of her jeans, and you can tell she loved it. She had fantasies that aligned with mine which was unreal. She was just overall nuts and not just sexually so it had to end. Also agree with not othering girls you meet online who are into the same stuff. Just go slow with them online don't start immediately asking if they shit their diapers or whatever. Also if you have a vanilla gf try and be confident and tell them a month or two in. Harder said than done but if you can say "yeah I'm into this thing that's a little weird. If you wanna be part of that with me, great. If not, no worries. Just figured I should let you know." I said that with one gf a month and a half in and she was cool with it but didn't try it before it ended. She did bring it up again a couple times though so I think she was open to it. So there's a chance she'll give it a shot. If not, whatever. Vanilla girls will do stuff for you if they love you.

Following on from what was said previously I think that men actually specifically like taboo simply because it is taboo and can find sexual gratification in the shame and risk involved with that. Where as women are genuinely uncomfortable with it and don't wish to deal with it, at least until they can find acceptance with a group or a partner

Wife is into it; she’s got a daddy kink and enjoys pacifiers and being bottle fed. Not big into diapers but will wear and has wet. Another girl I worked with who I’ve been friends with for 16 years; we went on one date and I told her (in a “ what’s your most weird sex thing you’ve ended up doing”). It didn’t go anywhere relationship-wise but she told me a few times she’d be up for wearing wetting a diaper in friendly conversation . I think most women will be happy to please you if you’re up for pleasing them…

>>5667 Had a vanilla gf who was willing to wear a goodnite occasionally. In theory it was exciting but the reality was that it was painfully obvious to me that she did not share the fetish. Now maybe this is just me, but that kills my boner bigtime. It was a bit sad to tell you the truth.

>Have any of you ever experienced a girl in diapers in real life? Yes. >Was it out of luck, or did you make it happen? The latter. 12 Years ago I met a woman that was around a decade older than me (I was 25 at the time) who replied to my ad back when Craigslist personals was a thing. At the end of that summer, I met a nice girl who lived in town and we began dating who is still my gf to this very day. I waited nine or so months before revealing diaper stuff. She recalls that it took a bit of effort in explaining it because lol anxiety. >How was it compared to your expectations? The time spend with that individual I had mentioned above was somewhat strenuous because I didn't get any sleep the night before due to working overnights. First was me driving nearly an hour to pick her up, another 45 minutes driving to a bigger city for the hotel room that has a mall next to it to where I bought her some cute shoes. Eventually we made it to the hotel room to where she regressed to non-verbal status and I gave her a bath, gave her an enema, changed her diaper, and took care of her for a number of hours. I can't recall if I got any sleep that night but I was dead tired the next day. We never spoke with each other again. She was large and was on a bagful of medications. She claimed she worked as a dental hygienist but I cannot be sure of the validity of anything that woman said. Were my expectations met? Yes, though at a cost of an exhausting time. As for my gf, we had decent photoshoots shortly after me telling her about it. She's a real trooper when it comes to this stuff as she really has no interest in it outside of wearing pull ups for her periods. Her parent's had her in cloth diapers as an infant and finds them uncomfortably warm when she has them on for any length of time. I can't remember the last time I taped her up, but for my birthday that's coming up soon, I just want a photoshoot. Sample packs and a new onesie won't break the bank to give what can be described as a "unique gift". Were my expectations met? Yes, and they're ongoing. >>9480 >Also if you have a vanilla gf try and be confident and tell them a month or two in. Harder said than done but if you can say "yeah I'm into this thing that's a little weird. If you wanna be part of that with me, great. If not, no worries. Just figured I should let you know." I said that with one gf a month and a half in and she was cool with it but didn't try it before it ended. She did bring it up again a couple times though so I think she was open to it. My gf had no clue about this stuff, though is very feminine so she gave it a shot. >So there's a chance she'll give it a shot. If not, whatever. Vanilla girls will do stuff for you if they love you. No lies detected.

>>5667 I had he opposite. I went on a date with a girl who was a mommy domme. But she was only 19 and I was 17. It all happened because I have big balls and a small penis. Which is apparently her thing. She likes beta boys with small cocks and big balls. And she puts them in diapers. I met her on a craigslist years ago. She put an ad, and I responded. We went on one date. She changed my diaper twice which was awesome. And she put stuff up my butt. The problem was she was a Nanny for some rich couple. And when she was showing me pictures of the boy she took care of she had tons of naked photos of him. He had a tiny cock and big balls. I'm pretty sure she was a pedo trying to live out her fantasy with someone bigger.

>>17014 Whatever they do to avoid harm should be encouraged

>>17014 semi related to this. Met a girl in a cowork site, I was doing network security and she was doing development. We started talking, kind of nerdy stuff, I really enjoyed having conversations with her, a bit chubby, but pretty, and had some very gentle vibes which I love. Joking around she mentioned she was getting a lot of odd questions in tinder, related to kinks and out of the blue told me we should share our kinks for fun, I accepted fully knowing that after the cat was out of the bag things would turn really sour or improve significately. We shared our things, turns out she had a deeply masochistic side, lots of humilliation, pain and some blood/vomit stuff which definitely scared me a bit... you think you are weird until someone "outweirds you" I guess. I told her I respected her kinks but I dont like seeing people suffer, even if its their kink, slaps, spit, violence, it actually makes me sad, really rough sex makes me uncomfortable. She said she liked what she was reading about mine... she spilled her beans about frecuenting 4chan for ss actually, like... really small cocks getting forcefully sucked, entirely swallowed... again, uncomfortable. She asked if I was into something else, like crossdressing or restrains even furries... I have always liked a bit of forced feminization but I felt that was something extra I was not ready to share with anyone yet... anyways, we kept on talking outside the office, messaging quite often, sometimes she would spam a couple of abdl pictures my way asking if I liked this or that, which most of the times it did. I was just fresh out of college, first job, feeling really insecure about everything and I was in the middle of trying to find my own apartment to move out of my parents and set up my own abdl chill place to enjoy my shekels spent into degeneracy so I had a lot of things in my head. At some point she asked me if I was looking for a Mommy or Daddy... which I basically denied since I got scared I believe... she seemed like someone who would know how to push my buttons and manipulate me a bit into doing more and more extreme stuff, like 24/7 and public exposure... I freaked out, big time, we all say "I want a Dommy Mommy" until you realize shit can get messed up fast, REALLY FAST, specially when you let the coombrain take over the wheel.... After a couple of months of interaction she eventually stopped messaging me and I felt bad, I heard she started dating a dude that had a really Alpha vibe, so I guess she went after someone to be a propper dom. I would have liked to keep her as a friend, not just for the kink stuff I honestly liked her as a person... but also there was no going back after I opened the pandora box of kinks... she scared me a bit tbh... she definitely fit a profile pattern which I have seen quite a few times during the years: * a bit on the bbw side --- which leads me to believe they are not really thirst after a lot, so people tend to go down the slippery slope of kinks to keep pushing boundaries more and more * a bit introverted but kind * nerdy/geeky * good paying job I have to agree with the vanilla statement, looking for a Mommy in the community seems like a really baaaaaaaaaaad idea, women into this, REALLY into this seem to be a special kind of fucked up, not that dudes are a lot better. But it becomes easier to rationalize and understand it, being submissive, cute, vulnerable and letting someone else care for you. Thats it. For a woman to enjoy this (as any other type of domination) she has to have a very special kind of mindset where not always she will get sexual pleasure out of it, so if it is all mental what sort of mind do you need to enjoy sexual interaction with grown men, dressed as babys?... really think about it... yes...

I've been in 4 relationships with all having some involvement in the fetish. Lots of hot memories from all of them. It takes some confidence to open up about this fetish for sure but if you really care about the person and they care about you they'll likely accept it to some degree.

>>17014 I wouldn't have cared, that would have made it even hotter to me. Would have made it even easier for me to project myself into little space and feel like she was my nanny and I was that little boy.

>>17033 who are you to judge women who are into this kink? I got into ABDL at a very young age. I've experienced the sub side. I'm mostly sub. As I've gotten older, I can appreciate and understand the headspace that ABDLs have, whether they're male or female. It's a special connection that I would be happy to have with an ABDL girl or boy.

>>17048 >It takes some confidence to open up about this fetish for sure but if you really care about the person and they care about you they'll likely accept it to some degree. My trust issues run very deep, it took my last ex finding out by mistake for the truth to come out. I had told her months before that I had a fetish I wanted to tell her about, but wasn't ready too say what it was. Looking back it was stupid I waited so long given what she already knew about me. The issue is that while that relationship is over, what we had felt deeper. We knew each other for a long time before dating, whoever comes next will likely be a stranger. I hardly trust people I know, I'm going to trust a stranger.

Met a girl who was an empath and for some reason put her full trust in me. Only the second week knowing her and having her over at my house. I forget what led up to it but i jokingly told her to get on her knees and she rushed to. She had an amazing ass and she wanted me to spank her and boy did I. Long story short we kept meeting up and i took her to comicon where i found this couple that were diapered and it was easy to see. I had used them as an excuse to get my girl to try wearing a diaper and she barely agreed. Also I'm a dl so i had some diapers on hand so i put one on her asap. The first time i had her in a diaper i made sure to use a wand on her and gave her a big orgasm while wearing it and in her tired state i got her to agree to wear them again. I got very lucky with this girl because she came to me one night and asked me to buy her a pacifier and a sippy cup. She was super shy and ashamed but i stopped that immediately and assured her i thought it was cute. So now i keep her padded, giving her a bottle, dressing her up in onesies, changing her if she wets and cuddling her the whole time. I thought it couldnt get any better... Then she diapered me lovingly and would change me and use the wand on me after i wet. Now its 50/50 one night it's her padded one its me. She is a kinky sub, i got her to wear a vibrating dildo while diapered and she came as we went through a drive through. Sorry for a jumble mess of a post but there was a lot to say.

Talked about kink stuff with an friend online We met up and had some fun, first time BDSM stuff, 2nd time included ABDL, she was adorably needy and loved getting edged/denied. Wish I had more time with her, she ghosted me for a while but still checks in occassionally, we don't talk anywhere near how much we used to I miss the friendship more. idk if shes just checking I haven't offed myself yet, feels bad

>>17033 >a bit on the bbw side "Fat". That's it There isn't anything else to it Your Americanized perception is the only reason you default to these euphemisms. It's only because you live in a nation where 200lbs on a girl is the norm that she passes off as being "not that bad". And that's true for basically every blog post I've ever read like the ones in this thread. Most of the time I always want to ask someone who posts these kinds of stories "why did you neglect to mention that you're both over 200lbs?" Neither of you ever had anything valuable - you just settled for each other.

I have met 3 diaper girls in real life, face to face. Those meetings were pretty casual - with couple, I was worktraveling on their city, so we went to have couple of drinks on bar. The third one lives quite near to me and we have met couple of times. I'm married to my non-kink wife and those meetings with "diaper girls" were purely non-sexual - no touching, no flirting, nothing. Just casual meetings along with friends.

>>22021 200 lbs isn't "the norm" for women in America.

>>22036 1. It isn't far off 2. It is only going up 3. It will be in your lifetime unless a famine kicks in (fingers crossed) 4. Even if it isn't "the norm" in the sense of being a statistical average, it has been totality normalized. All women are Cesar's wife now - above reproach for the choices they make (ie, how they stuff their face). Please take your petty nitpicks/ impotent quibbles elsewhere ( = _=) . . .

>>22039 The average weight is 170. >> It IsN't FaR oFf hurr durr Eurotards talking about america like they know shit. Go fuck yourself and focus on your own shit hole. inb4 "IM ACTUALLY AMERICAN TOO HAHA UR WRONG" (which would be the retard/obese answer, incase that wasn't clear)

>>22039 >>22048 you're both retards arguing on a site where people masturbate in their own shit >>22039 you're also using caesar's wife wrong, it doesn't mean someone is above reproach, it means even just accusation taints someone

>>22048 Cringe. You lost this one. Go away.

>>22051 I only masturbate in my own piss.

I've never met any abdls male or female. Considering all the disturbing things I have seen I don't wish to meet them. I'm keeping this damn fetish a secret even to the day I die.

I've managed to get two girls to wear a diaper. None of them was my gf tho. The first and most interesting one was in high school we were both 16 and she wasn't into it but I confessed my fetish to her and she was cool with it. She draw me some wakfu diaper art and one time we did an afternoon playing monopoly and drinking soda. Both diapered, and the deal was simple: the first one to have an accident had to mess and get changed by the other. I genuinely lost and messed my diaper in front of her. She gave me a hug and a diaper pat but said she wasn't feeling ok to change me as it was her first time, which was fine. Life happened we never tried again and we moved separately the second one was recent, she just wore it over her clothes, found it funny. Couldn't bang as well, what a shame she was a qt

>>22048 Spotted the fatty

Wife will participate occasionally only after I ask and generally for special occasions. We went to Avatar the other night and as we were getting ready to go, unnprompted, she walks out of the bedroom with a MegaMax on.. She casually says that she doesn't want to miss any of the movie and suggests I wear as well. We get to the movie and and to push the issue I order us each large sodas. Movie ends and she actually suggests we stop at a bar on the way home and get beers. She's obviously soaked and soggy under her leggings by the time we leave, but the dress does a good enough job covering it. We get home and she can tell how turned on I am and she asks if I like the view.. She asked how we could do the deed while wearing still. So I pull each to the side and blow my load in absolutely record time and then proceed to get her off with a vibrator.. I go to change her and she says to wait as she wants to do her after sex pee. She then says how nice it is to not have to go to the toilet after sex. Considering she has been vanilla and not super interested in the kink for the last 10 years, this absolutely caught me off guard. She said that we will have to do it again because she liked how excited I was. Guess it just goes to show that sometimes spouses do just take time to come around and accept it.

Then to add to this, a few days later she asked for a massage.. I walk in and she wearing a Goodnite that she's wet already. She said "I thought maybe I'd get a longer full body massage if you were enjoying it too". Well almost an hour later her massage was done and she pulls the GN to the side and makes me finish inside her. Once again I return the favor and she claims that she enjoys not having to get up immediately after to go peas and being able to let it go into the diaper. So almost 15 years after we started the relationship, I'm finally getting to live some of the fantasies that have been running through my head for years.

my fiance's fun with it. last weekend we were at a music festival, we both strapped in, she dosed us a little of the mdmazing stuff and we danced our feet sore to Griz. We spent the rest of the night getting each other off and carrying on all fluffed up. Hit the showers in the morning for a fresh start. On the way home we both strapped in again for the 6 hour car ride. When we got home she didnt even want to take it off. The new tykables are impressive and versatile! I never in my life thought I'd ever be able to share the secret with someone, let alone enjoy the act with someone. Keep your head up and your heart open, ya never know!

>>10991 Ditto - my wife knows I'm a DL, and she has offered to wear them once or twice, but until she goes and puts one on all by herself, I'm not going to ask her to do it. It's too forced. Like 9333, I'd like a girl who is as deranged about diapers as I am, and there are some out there I guess. Somewhere.