I used to have this friend (female) who I told I was into something, because of some discussion we were having about sexuality. She basically kept asking me for a year or two what it was... I never told her and I eventually regretted mentioning that. Granted, she was respectful of me not saying what it was because she was a good friend, but she was just so curious. We're not friends anymore, for unrelated reasons. Honestly IDK if I care if she knew, but I didn't feel like telling her, as I didn't always trust her that much with information, and she wouldn't get it anyway, so what's the point?
There was also one time back in high school (around 10 years ago) at lunch when me and some of my (sort of) friends were sitting together and vore happened to come up. I was the one in the group that everyone would make fun of. And somehow they landed on the joke of me possibly having it (they basically teased me for anything they could, it was an inside joke), and someone was like "we figured out Anon!" I just shrugged it off and laughed a bit with them and thankfully they dropped it two seconds later... that was the closest I came to disaster. I had one second to convince them it wasn't true. Fortunately I succeeded. Back then I may have considered killing myself. I am friends with a couple of these people to this day and nobody knows.
TBH I wouldn't KMS, at least now. Shit, I've lived with worse. But I still don't tell anyone, including lovers, mostly because they wouldn't understand. Just explaining the concept accurately to someone who doesn't know it is hard enough. It took me a while to explain it to my shrink.
This all makes me wonder: for those of you who have successfully told people (e.g. a gf), is there any relief you get from it? Most people here are just focusing on the fear, but does it make you feel better on any level, or is it just because you want to have a gf who will play along?
And if it does provide relief, what are we all so afraid of?