This thread is bizarre. It's like finding an Alcoholics Anonymous office in the middle of a brewery. Like, sure, congrats to y'all for sorting your porn addictions, genuine problem so many people, especially younger lads, face, so good on ye. But this "my fetish is a sickness that must be purged" vibe sounds like some "I'm not gay I just love Jesus" levels of delusion. If you think your vore addiction is a separate, greater issue than the porn side of it, then you need a thorough self-analysis of 1. Why it bothers you to that extent 2. What about it is so alluring/attractive.
I struggle with my kinks because most of my partners haven't shared them, and thus I don't know how they'd react to them until it's been said. This has been exacerbated with vore as most hadn't even heard of it, or only had a partial, meme-based understanding. Would things be easier if I was vanilla? Maybe, probably not, I know enough vanilla guys who've had serious relationship trouble because they don't have the mental flexibility to adapt to their partners in the bedroom. To try and force yourself into something you're not is inviting disaster.
I've taken the time to try and understand my own psychology, my tics, biased, flaws that I am prone to, so I can plan my approach to life in a way that works with them, for all aspects. It's hard work and time consuming, but no genuine solution is ever quick and easy, and I cannot reccomend any approach that doesn't involve massive amounts of self reflection.
Breaking down the elements behind my vore kink, I know it comes from 1. My personal trauma with food (my diet is incredibly restricted, so anything I would be willing to eat carries an inherent weight of trust/safety) 2. My autistic biases towards physical contact and tactile stimming ( I am extremely aware that physical contact can be unsettling for people, so only those with whom there is an established safety can be touched, but I am also a very tactile person, my hands are rarely idle and I keep objects just for their texture. When I am with a partner, I want to touch them in as total and thorough a manner as I can, to try and maximize our connection and express how strongly I feel for them, so this impulse to try and completely envelop someone Venn diagrams with vore) 3. My preference for clear dynamics. When someone is openly submissive or dominant it is much easier for me to gauge how they want things to go, reducing the anxiety of me misreading and misstepping socially. I like masochistic women, not because I'm a sadist, but because they provide a clear role for me to play for them to make them happy.
With the knowledge I now have, I've been able to talk to people about my kinks in a proper and civil manner, still somewhat embarrassed, but without that same degree of fear and self-loathing. I find where my preferences line up with my partner's and incorporate them in a way that I can enjoy my own little irregularities while still facilitating theirs, and my relationships have been much happier for it.
I realize this is a sexually inclined 4chan extension so most people won't bother reading most is any of this and will probably just call me a slur and move on, but for the oddballs who decided to act like repenting monks in the same place, I would hope you'd at least consider some of what I am suggesting, anecdotal though much of it may be