I have never been able to get off to anything like that, the idea disgusts me tbh, too close to incest for my taste. My poor relationship with my mother is probably why I ended up with this fetish.

>>10390 I think the most common cause of the ABDL fetish in men at least is mommy issues. It's the case for me at least

>>10407 I always figured the leading cause was parental issues (I didn't have any parent issues or anything, but I'm willing to say I'm likely an outlier). With your comment, I'm really wondering if there is a discrepancy in the cause of abdl between mommy and daddy issues.

>>10407 >>10410 i dont think so tbh, based on the abdls ive spoken to the most common thing i hear is something to the effect of 'i've always had a fascination with diapers even from a very early age' idk i dont want to say people are born with fetishes or anything but it does seem like a lot of people develop them early, likely before any parental issues could develop

>>10390 This is the TLDR version of events. When I was a much younger woman and met my future husband he was an AB. At first I didn’t really understand it but over time I started to love babying him. We eventually had our first child, my son whom I love dearly. My husband passed away in a work related accident when our son was 3. My husband had many Adult Baby and Diaper Lover friends. It took me some time to grieve for my husband, but I was soon playing mommy to many of his friends. This was NEVER around my son and only done when he was at school! After 2 years I finally decided it was time to pack up my late husband's things. I’m a very sentimental person, and couldn’t find it in my heart to get rid of his stuff just yet. Most of it ended up in boxes in the garage. Just after my son turned 8 he started to ask questions about his dad. Not thinking I told him he was welcome to go though his dad's things in the garage. Imagine my surprise when he came in holding a diaper, pacifier, and onesies that belonged to him! I had completely forgotten about the adult baby stuff! I told some little white lie about it. Telling my son that like him daddy was a bedwetter. Like him, dad had sucked his thumb, and that’s why we had that stuff. OH BOY did that open a can of worms! Long story short a few days later I found myself diapering, dressing and cuddling on the couch with my son. NOT that I wasn’t ok with it, it’s just I’d REALLY tried to keep all the Adult Baby stuff out of his life. Anyway from about age 8 to 15 when he stopped wetting the bed every night was baby time. He also spent a few weekends a month as my little boy. At 15 it started to taper off, the last time I babied him was shortly after his 17th birthday. Not much was ever really said about it between us till he was 26. Over dinner one night he brought it all back up and asked if dad had a diaper fetish. I told him the truth about his dad and many of our friends being AB’s or DL’s. He expressed that he too was an AB and that the only reason he’d stopped wanting me to baby him was societal pressures to man up. Plus he found himself getting aroused by it all and thought that was weird. End of the story, he met a WONDERFUL girl, who was also a Little and they got married. I now have a few grandkids and I get to baby them, as they are babies! I also have a few Littles I play aunty to, but I’m not the spring chicken I used to be ; ). So yes there are those of us out there! If you have any questions feel free to ask. Be good little boys and girls and have a GREAT day!

>>10419 ...and everyone clapped.

>>10419 Yeah, I've never even met a woman who was willing to baby her husband. Calling bullshit on all of this.

>>10411 >>10407 >>10410 I’ve been in the AB/DL scene for 35ish years. The most common reason I’ve heard about why people became AB’s or DL’s, is they were put back in diapers for bed/pants wetting by understanding/not so understanding parents. >>10390 That said me and two of my siblings were diaper/baby punished for bed/pants wetting as kids. Of the three of us two, me and my youngest bio brother are both AB’s. The third brother (the middle kid) died in an accident at 19. But in comments from him and his girlfriend, I think he was possibly an AB or at least a DL. So yeah it has happened before for what it's worth. I have 3 other siblings, a sister, and two brothers. One, the youngest, was adopted, he's technically my cousin, six of us in total. (freaking Mormon!) Anyway none of them are into the AB/DL thing that I’m aware of. But none of them got diaper/baby punished as kids. >>10422 I call bullshit on your bullshit! My wife wasn't into the AB scene until she met me. She babies me and she enjoys it. She's been doing it for 19 years of our marriage. We have many age players in our circle of friends that have spouses that baby them. So yeah it totally happens, sorry you've not met the right person yet.

>>10422 >>10429 The thing that breaks it for me isn't really the husband being babied by the wife. That actually seems believable to me though I'll note that most women probably are going to see a guy as less of a man if he wants her to do stuff like babying or feminizing him, but the son finding his dead dad's fetish gear then being into it and bringing it up with his mom who then participates in the son's own ABDL stuff is bizarre, incestuous, and sounds like something out ABDL fiction more than a real thing that would happen. Who finds their parent's fetish stuff and isn't disturbed by it even if they too are into that fetish? I'd certainly be bothered a bit if I discovered one of my parents had a secret ABDL stash and I think most people would just try to ignore it or wouldn't mention they had found that to their parents.

>>10410 I had a very normal healthy childhood, so if that's the case I'm an odd one out too.

Man seems like most common reason for abdl scene is thinly veiled child abuse.

>>10476 What do you mean

>>10451 >I had a very normal healthy childhood, so if that's the case I'm an odd one out too. Same here. No parental issues/abuse and I still gravitate towards this sometimes

>>10407 Suspicion about my Mom being inappropriate with me when I was really really young. Parents divorced when I was 6. Dad disappeared when I was 8. When my dad left my Mom was really violent and emotionally neglectful. Since I cannot trust women enough to feel myself vulnerable around them and I am not attracted to men the ultimate fantasy is someone providing love, support and care trying to compensate what I did not have growing up, likely will settle for the occasional escort/dominatrix. Yup.