I very much wish I could be a parent, but I can't find a trustworthy woman. Society incentivises them to cuckold men and then leave the cucks so said cucks have to pay alimony and child support (which never gets to the child, since the mother can spend it however she wants). I believe I'd be a good parent. I work with kids, and am successful in that field. However, I'm not confident that I can find a woman that would be as good a parent as me. Even if she didn't take the kid and deliberately ruin the kid's life (as well as my own), I can't find one that wouldn't simply raise the kid wrong. Even the ones that say they're not feminist actually are. They'd still raise my son to be a cuck or my daughter to be a selfish asshole.
I've also seen the stats on kids raised by single fathers, and those stats show that those kids have outcomes almost the same as those with in-tact families. However, most of those kids raised by single fathers are actually totally fucked up, because fathers only get custody if the mothers are the worst of the worst abusive crackheads. So really, single fathers do extremely well, since they almost only exist in the worst of the worst circumstances.
So I disagree with OP's assertion that being a dad has to be feminine. Modern men who become dads might sometimes be total cucks (often not even the real dads), but it doesn't have to be that way. It is a masculine trait to want to make the world better for the future, and being a parent is one important way to do that, so long as you do it right. Nobody is raised right these days, and that goes for us, too. Yes, I mean you, reading this right now. You're on this website, and that proves my point. But don't get me wrong, I think you guys are closer to being right than most of society. Now imagine how good you'd be if you weren't raised wrong. I know most of you have the types of mothers I'm complaining about, and the probably the types of fathers OP is making fun of, if your dads were even around at all (since maybe the mothers didn't want them around, and the mothers just get what they want in western societies). But that said, while it might be too late for us, we might be able to teach the next generation the lessons we should have learned earlier.
But I've been working on it. I have a side-hustle that I can do from home, and it's just about at the point where it covers my mortgage and other basic expenses. So now all the money from my main job is being saved for one thing: surrogacy. I hate the idea of paying a woman for this, but frankly, it's less than you'd end up spending on a woman to have your kid otherwise, and this is one of the only ways to safely make sure the kid you get is actually your own, and to make sure that you actually get to raise the kid. The kid can't be taken away at the monetarily incentivized whims of the mother, and you can thus actually raise the kid right, so you don't end up with some sort of brainwashed feminist cuck or slut.
I've been working on this for years. The government shutting down the economy and vastly increasing housing costs really slowed me down, but I own a pretty decent starter home now, and plan to flip it when possible so I can keep upgrading my investment. But since I live cheaply and don't have a woman around to waste all my money, my side hustle supports all my basic expenses, and I save a bunch from my main job. The money that was previously going toward a down payment on a home can now go toward surrogacy. And meanwhile my side-hustle is becoming a bigger and bigger percentage of my income, so once I can afford the surrogacy, I plan to work until the kid is born, then quit the main job and work from home, making some additional money in real estate when possible (at least selling my own place and moving if I see a good deal I can afford), so that I don't have to send the kid off to a brainwashing facility every day.
I am confident in my ability to homeschool, and know for a fact that I can do it much more efficiently than other schools. I know because that's my current job, and all the government rules only exist to slow things down and teach the kids wrong on purpose. And of course even the government would admit that smaller class sizes are better for each individual student. With a class size of one, and a teacher that can actually just teach properly instead of spending most of the day trying to wrangle disruptive retards and convince the other kids to be homosexual communists, there would be so much more time left in the day to go and do fun stuff with your kid. Worried about your homeschooled kid not being "socialized?" You could easily finish all the lessons in a day twice as fast, then take the rest of the day to take your kid to group activities.
And one long-term goal I'm considering is to open up a for-profit homeschooling operation. Most homeschooling actually involves small groups of families hiring a teacher to teach the way they want, which usually just means focusing on reading, writing, and arithmetic, instead of focusing on turning their kids into gay communists. This would require me to have a better house in a better location, but I'm working on that goal either way. I also worry that I'd be at a disadvantage in this field due to being male, but it's something I'm considering in the future, once I get a house big enough that I could convert a significant portion of it into a relatively professional looking classroom.
The above homeschooling arrangement would fulfill several purposes. The first is something I get to do now, but even better. I get to help raise the next generation. Even now it is nice that I do get to do a better job teaching kids than most of my colleagues. Though I have to be very careful to hide my power level, I do get students showing overt appreciation for the simple fact that I don't push the propaganda as hard, that I sometimes offer some actual education instead, that I don't show outright hatred for whites or males or heterosexuals. It's not as much as I wish I could do, but it's a small positive difference, and that's something. And if I got this homeschooling business set up, I could do that more effectively, albeit with a smaller number of students. But it would also serve the purpose of letting me homeschool my own kid while also giving that kid a decent amount of socialization with other reasonably raised kids. That, plus you can make a pretty decent living doing this kind of gig. It pays pretty much the same as working at the public boards, as the parents understand that those are the employers they're competing against. But all that said, if I can't get that going, my side-hustle pays the basic expenses, and I could get by with that.
>tl;dr: if you do it right, becoming a dad means influencing the next generation positively. It means building a better world than the one you were handed. I just can't say that I associate femininity with building society. We all know it's the opposite.
All that said, once I get the money for surrogacy, I plan to pay extra for sex-selection, specifically so that I can ensure my child is a girl. I'm only one man, and though I think I could raise a kid well, I know that I wouldn't be able to change things enough that growing up as a boy, coming of age in the 2040s, wouldn't be hell. I wouldn't want to have to watch my son go through that. So I'd make sure I have a daughter, and with no pre-corrupted woman around to raise the kid (and maybe just take her away entirely), and no schools brainwashing her for 8 hours a day, maybe I could actually raise her to be the mythical creature known as "a good woman." And then she could use take the advantages our feminist society gives her and continue my legacy more effectively than I could do. She wouldn't have to hire a surrogate, at least.
I know the above sounds really fucked up, but we've gotta have goals, and this is a long-term goal with many short-term goals along the way. Those short-term goals are all good on their own, but not good enough. But I like my long-term goals. If I can accomplish them, I can rest easy knowing I made the world a slightly better place. And you can, too. Because as fucked up as we are here, go and look at the outside world. It's a lot more fucked up. You guys are honestly some of the least fucked up, because at least you recognize the problems.