Part 2
What the Pronatalist Youtubers have is Pragma, Storge, and hopefully as they work together eventually mutual Agape. What people nowadays think of primarily of “love” is Eros and Mania. Families cannot successfully be maintained on Eros, because the biochemical underpinnings of Eros only last at most a year or two. Long enough to make a baby, perhaps, but nowhere near long enough to raise one to adulthood in safety.
Further meditations on the topic revealed something new to me that I had not realized before. Nowhere in Christian thought is any indication of when or how to engage in Ludos or ludic love. The realization hit me hard. I had always assumed sex always needed to be with one’s spouse. That’s officially the only kind that is permitted. And, I concur still, it is the best. But…
In my teetotaler example, the danger is that the good of alcohol consumption is lost by preaching pure abstinence. And by only teaching abstinence, no instruction on how to handle alcohol in an intelligent way is provided. Just “Don’t do it!” By analogy, only providing instruction on perfect sexual continence risks ignoring the positive effects and risks of irregular sexual relations. And it hit me hard: Of course! The gay Canadian man would understand that! He could not be satisfied with regular sex, using perversions of normal relations. He needed to understand which parts of love and sex he could keep even as a homosexual.
Ludic sex is literally what “players” do. All the pick-up guys? Ludic. All the girls who ho? Ludic. But also, the fumbling teens? Ludic. The stuff people do on vacation? Ludic. Consequence free sex a la porn, TV, movies, and popular books…anytime sex is treated as no more sacred than a game of Tennis? Ludic. And yet there is absolutely no instruction from a religious point of view on how to best and most safely engage in Ludic sex.
The Occult seeks to understand the world as it is, not as it is described in dogmatic terms. Sex alone, without any energy work to adjust it, generates energetic links between the participants. All those witches helping people with “cord-cutting” services are often helping people who got energetic strings attached from no-strings-attached sex! The participants had no idea what the effects of their choices would be.
Think about love spells for a moment. What’s their goal? Almost always they come from an obsessive place: what Lee called mania. At best, dosing some girl with a magical ‘roofie’ will only get her to be obsessed with you, not any kind of love that is enjoyable over the long term. “Roofie” is a slang word for Rohypnol, a common date rape drug that guys, or female thieves, use to drug their victims. It causes loss of resistance to command and memory loss, so the victim often doesn’t know what happened. Girls putting their menstrual blood in baked goods is the same principle. It’s all fun and games until she starts threatening to kill herself if you don’t love her, or threatens to file rape charges unless you accede to her demands. As the Genie in Aladdin put it, “Uh, rule #2: I can't make anybody fall in love with anybody else.” The audience is thinking “Eros” but really it must mean all six types of love.
One of my long-term interests is in sexual spirits and their energetic effect. I think using the “honey” of eros is a pretty good way to give a goal for spiritual work. The classic archetype of the aspirant going on a journey, slaying the beast, and winning the love of a princess. If Mario and Luigo just rubbed one out in a Japanese Soapland Bowser would rule and the Princess would still be locked in the Castle. Instead, the masculine journey to engage with the world, learn how it works, and then conquer our adversaries (whether in the physical or within ourselves) is the reason I am interested in the Occult. Religion says, “Trust us, follow us and you will be fine” whereas I am more interested in understanding what I can first, and then proceeding accordingly.
In our modern world, very few men have super-strong masculine energy. And very few women have very strong feminine energy. If you work with strongly feminine entities, such as mermaids or undines, they are much more feminine than most women. The risk, which I think the Occultist Bardon mentioned, is becoming “swallowed up” by them. I work hard to maintain my masculine energy, even by writing this little essay: taking the risk of putting words out there for the world is a masculine activity.
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